Strap-ons & harnesses
New plans. Good company.
Fancy trying something new together? Have a browse, share what takes your fancy and choose a comfortable place to start.
“New plans. Same favourite person.”
Find the style that suits you
Open a section for help choosing. Each Shop button takes you to that collection of products.
Strap-ons & harnesses
Start by deciding whether you want a complete set or a harness to match with a separate attachment. A complete set simplifies compatibility only if the listing includes both pieces.
Before you choose: Compare the wearer’s size range and the receiving partner’s preferred dimensions. For separate pieces, check the attachment system and base requirements before buying. The photograph alone won’t tell you what’s in the box.
A little more know-how
Find a harness that suits the wearer
Compare waist or hip measurements using the maker’s sizing method. Adjustable straps and underwear-style harnesses fit differently. Look at how the design fastens, where it can be adjusted and how it is cleaned.
Make adjustments before use and check that the fit feels secure without pinching. If sharing a harness, compare the stated range with both wearers’ measurements rather than assuming one adjustment suits everyone.
Check the connection as well as the size
For an O-ring harness, check the specified ring size and compatible toy base. Other attachment systems have their own requirements; “harness compatible” doesn’t mean compatible with every harness.
Choose the toy’s dimensions with the receiving partner, using usable length and diameter rather than overall length alone. Agree on pace and a clear way to pause, and stop if there is pain.
For anal use, choose a toy explicitly intended for it with an appropriate flared base. Check lubricant compatibility and cleaning instructions before use. Our lube and care guides cover the essentials.
A few quick answers
Will any dildo fit any harness?
No. Attachment type, ring size and base design all matter. Check both products’ specifications.
Does “strapless” mean it will stay in place for everyone?
No. It is a different design with its own fit requirements, not a guarantee of hands-free stability. Read the exact product’s guidance.
Should a beginner choose the biggest set?
Choose mutually comfortable dimensions and easy adjustment. Bigger is not a measure of how well a set suits you.
We’re both curious but a little nervous. How should we choose?
Browse together and start with the shapes and dimensions you both feel comfortable considering. A complete set can simplify shopping, but the fit still matters. There’s no deadline to try it once it arrives.
Can we make it a gift and still choose the fit together?
Yes—make choosing it part of the gift. You can pick a few styles to browse together, then compare the wearer’s measurements and the receiving partner’s preferences. The surprise can be the invitation, not an unexpected size.
