Couples toys guide
A little extra fun for two.
You bring the chemistry. We’ll help you find a little extra fun. Choose something you’re both curious about, then leave the evening a little less planned.
“The best part? Choosing what happens next, together.”
Find the style that suits you
Open a section for help choosing. Each Shop button takes you to that collection of products.
Couples toys
Start here to browse designs intended to add something shared to your plans. Choose what you’re both curious about: a handheld shape, a wearable design or a way to share the controls.
Before you choose: Compare fit, controls and intended use before choosing. Something uncomplicated that you both fancy can be a better first purchase than the most feature-packed option.
Massage wands
A handheld wand can be an easy way to take turns without app setup or a wearable fit to solve. Compare head size, weight and low settings.
Before you choose: Choose a handle you can comfortably hold and check the intended use. Larger heads offer a different contact area from small focused designs; more power isn’t the only consideration.
Remote-controlled toys
For couples curious about sharing control nearby. A dedicated remote lets you try that idea without necessarily involving a phone.
Before you choose: Agree how to pause and check direct stop controls first. Compare range, batteries and the toy’s physical fit, rather than buying only for the remote feature.
App-controlled toys
Worth comparing if phone features or supported long-distance partner control appeal to you. Make setup part of choosing together.
Before you choose: Check the current app, compatible phones and the exact model’s distance features. Agree access and boundaries, and learn how to disconnect before handing over control.
Couples games
A lighter starting point if you’d rather share a laugh or a few prompts before choosing a toy. Compare the game’s tone and format with the evening you want.
Before you choose: Look for sample content, player count and any extras required. Either person should be free to skip a prompt; the game supplies ideas, not obligations.
Massage oils
For an evening that starts with a slower pace. Bottled oil is ready without a melting stage, so compare a scent and texture you both like.
Before you choose: Check ingredients and permitted skin use. Choose personal lubricant separately if you need it; massage oil is not automatically suitable for intimate use or condoms.
Massage candles
A purpose-made massage candle adds a little anticipation while its blend melts. Choose it if you enjoy the ritual as well as the massage.
Before you choose: Follow burning and cooling directions, extinguish before dispensing and check the temperature. Give it a stable surface away from fabrics.
A little more know-how
Choose together, even when it’s a gift
Browse a few styles and ask what appeals: the shape, the idea of sharing control, or simply trying something different. Agree on the purchase and the boundaries without treating either as a promise to use it immediately.
A surprise ribbon is lovely. A surprise expectation is less so. Either person can change their mind, pause or prefer to save it for another evening.
A little preparation leaves more room for fun
Check dimensions, intended use, controls and cleaning instructions. Charge it beforehand if needed, and choose compatible lubricant. For toys shared between partners or body sites, follow hygiene guidance; clean between uses and use a fresh condom where appropriate.
Get comfortable with the controls before handing them over. There’s no result you need to deliver. Take your time finding out what you both enjoy.
Need help narrowing it down? Read our vibrator guide, remote versus app comparison or toy care guide.
A few quick answers
Does a couples toy have to be worn during sex?
No. A toy you enjoy choosing and using together can be a shared addition without being worn or inserted.
What if one of us is unsure?
Leave space for that. Look together, talk about what appeals and keep the choice pressure-free. There’s no deadline.
What if we’d rather start with something lighter?
Try a date-night game or explore massage oils and candles. Together time doesn’t need a complicated setup.
We want a date-night treat without lots of setup. What would suit us?
Compare a simple handheld toy, a massage oil or a short card game. Choose one thing you’re both keen on rather than planning a whole production. The best extra is one that leaves you time to enjoy each other.
Can we pick something that works for time alone as well?
Yes. A handheld vibrator or wand can be a flexible choice if its shape and controls suit you. Choose for the person using it first, then think about how you’d enjoy sharing it. It doesn’t have to have only one role.
